Thursday, May 31, 2007

Our preliminary artwork for our new Loss of a Pet ornament is here and I wanted to share it with you. We know how much family pets can mean to people and we felt it was important to add an ornament that would be a comforting gift to give to someone who has lost a pet, whether it is a dog, cat, bird, hamster, etc. We are not sure of the wording at this point. (And we are open to suggestions!) We want to use something like:

"There is a special place in my heart where your spirit will live forever."

Feel free to post any input. We will probably be going into the mold phase of the ornament production in the next few weeks. We are also going to be licensing artwork from D. Morgan to develop an ornament into. Stay tuned....

Wednesday, May 09, 2007

The pendant where it all began....

For those of you who are not familiar with my story, I began The Comfort Company out of my frustration at not being able to find just the right gift for a family member who had lost her dad. I went through the traditional options....a sympathy flower arrangement, a sympathy gift basket, you know, the typical ideas that normally come to mind.

But this was such a devastating loss and nothing that I could come up with seemed to be able to speak to her great loss. Ultimately I ended up sketching a pendant for her. I sculpted the sketch using a piece of green play-doh and took it to my local jewelers who had it cast into silver. I wrote a poem about how one day she would "treasure her tears of remembering".

During the development of the pendant, I would share my story and all along the way people began to say, "I need one of those for my grandma.....I need one of those to give to my neighbor...." etc. I decided to have some extras made and, well, here is where I ended up.

Unfortunately I ran into problems with the manufacturing and quality suffered. I tried three different manufacturers, but could not get the quality piece that I wanted. Ultimately I had to cease production and the pendant has been unavailable for 3 years.

But now it's back and lovelier than ever before! I am just so excited to have this original design back. The quality is superb and I'm proud to have this unique sympathy gift available to you all. I know that if you choose to buy one for yourself or share one with someone you care about, you will be very pleased with the comfort that this Forget-Me-Not pendant will provide.

Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Helping Moms Cope When Mother's Day Hurts

What Grieving Moms Want for Mother’s Day: Offers 10 Simple Ways to help Moms Cope When Mother’s Day Hurts

Acknowledgement is what grieving mother’s want most for Mother’s Day, suggests a survey by, a website that specializes in meaningful sympathy gifts. The online survey asked “What can others do to ease your pain on Mother’s Day”. Over 80 percent of the 200 respondents answered, "Recognize that I am a mother".

“While Mother’s Day is generally considered to be a day of celebration, for many women it is a day of pain and loss” says Renee Wood, former social worker and founder of The Comfort Company. "It's important to remember those moms who have had a failed pregnancy or who have lost a child at any age."

In response to the survey results, has issued a list of ten simple ways to reach out to a grieving mother on this difficult holiday.

1. Recognize that they are a mother: Offer a hug and a "Happy Mother’s Day". Send a card to let them know you remember they are a mother even though their child is not with them physically.

2. Acknowledge they have had a loss: Express the message, "I know this might be a difficult day for you. I want you to know that I am thinking about you.”

3. Use their child’s name in conversation: One mother responded, "People rarely speak his name anymore, but when they do it’s like music to my ears".

4. Plant a living memorial: A tree or rose bush, like memories, will grow in beauty as the years pass.

5. Visit the grave site: Many mothers felt that it was "extremely thoughtful" when others visited their child’s grave site and left flowers or a small pebble near the headstone.

6. Light a candle: Let the mother know you will light a candle in memory of their child on Mother’s Day.

7. Share a memory or pictures of the child: Give the gift of a memory. One mother wrote that the "greatest gift you can give is a heart felt letter about my child and a favorite memory with them".

8. Send a gift of remembrance: Many mothers felt a small gift would be comforting. Suggestions included: an angel statue, jewelry, a picture frame, a library book or toy donation in the child’s name or anything personalized.

9. Don’t try to minimize the loss: Avoid using any clichés that attempt to explain the death of a child. ("God needed another angel.") Secondly, don’t try to find anything positive about the loss ("You still have two healthy children").

10. Encourage Self-Care: Self-care is an important aspect of the "healing the mind and spirit effort" according to several mothers. Encourage a grieving mother to take care of herself. Give her a gift certificate to a day spa or any place where she can be pampered.

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